Arranged marriages weren’t so bad, after all ?!?
Oxytocin is a hormone that is secreted by the brain during birth, breast feeding and …sex. It modulates how we feel towards the person who is next to us when the hormone inundates the brain.
“a wish for friendship arises swiftly, but friendship itself
does not.”—Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics
“We’re just fuckbuddies, John; it’s casual. You know, friends with benefits.”—that’s what my 19-year-old student said to me, with the endearing confidence of a kid who’s just gone to the corner store by himself for the first time. Two weeks later he was crying in my office. Heartbroken. Devastated. I’ve seen the same thing a thousand times. And there’s a simple reason for it: sex is love’s fast-forward button. If you’re normal, you’re going to fall in love with the person you’re sleeping with—or they’re going to fall in love with you—sooner or later.
As Aristotle well knew, it takes awhile to get close to a new friend, even if the two of you hit it off like crazy the first time you meet. My guess is that it takes, on average, about a year for genuine…
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